The Smiths are authors of the book Marriage After God. They have huge blog ministries called husband revolution & unveiled wife. At the beginning of their marriage they had many struggles and wanted to be able to vulnerably walk through these times in community encouraging others going through the same situations.
The mission behind their book:
God purposed marriage to go far beyond healthy and happy.
God’s design is for you to chase after the extraordinary purposes He has for you and your marriage.
What are some of the challenges you guys have walked through?
“We are constantly going through seasons of adjustments and changes that cause us to need to navigate and communicate better.
We have been through every struggle on the board. Intimacy, financial, communication, etc.
If we know what we are supposed to be doing and our identity from Christ then we can filter every problem through that lens.”
How can people identify when things aren’t going well? What can they do?
“Community was a huge aspect of us being able to find healing. Marriage isn’t always perfect and community helps encourage us and spur us on.
When we have problems and we lose focus of our identity and our purposes then every problem seems much bigger than reality. When we center on Jesus we gain insights into what we should do next.
We need to be able to see our marriage the way that God sees our marriage.
Everything becomes much less painful when we focus on Jesus.”
What are common trials that you see marriages facing?
“A lot of issues stem from selfishness.
The number one thing we see is sexual infidelity. Porn, affairs, emotional relationships, etc.
The bible leaves no rom for that and it causes so much destruction in marriage.
We had to walk through the battle of pornography and it’s been three years of freedom now.
People are trying to pursue happiness in their marriage when happiness is not the end goal.
Just because you aren’t happy doesn’t mean you chose the wrong person and need to give up.
Our marriages should paint the picture that we are strong and that we remain even when things aren’t going well.
We would fight harder if we knew Gods true perspective and believed what the Bible says about marriage.
You can’t build a biblical marriage if you don’t read the bible. We need to have a personal relationship with Him.
Talk to us about the difference between the saying “you and me against the world.” and “you and me for the world.”
It’s not about us only getting what we want and just fighting for ourselves.
It is about coming together in our marriage and asking God what we have to offer the world.
Not so focused on self and more focused on loving and helping others.
Not that you won’t ever have problems or need to take care of yourself but when you have a different focus your problems will shrink in comparison.
Becoming more selfless and less selfish.
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